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Hi good evening. Cik Teduhan Kasih (Idah) whom I met a few days ago asks me a favor. She wants some money to support her children. "Boleh ke nk pinjam duit sikit sy nk pakai urgent ank2 sy nk sklh," :

 Hai selamat malam. Good night. Cik Lita has been divorced since 2014, after her failed marriage due to her ex-husband’s polygamy. "Bini ex yg ketiga sangat meroyan, I tak kisah poligami," she said.

 Hai selamat tengah malam. Cik Teduhan Kasih (Idah) was nearby divorced lady with 7 kids (4 girls and 3 boys). When asked about her ex husband who is a policeman, she told me that he was hot tempered and liked to hit her brutally. Finally she made a police  report and filed a divorced.  "Sekarang sy baru saja berhenti kerja, tgh cari kerja,"

 Hai good afternoon. Ms MD is still married and lives very far far away in the east coast. "Knp nk takut?" "Hidup satu je, Ikut Kita punya hak," "Skrng hidup I complicated," "Husband so affair dgn perempuan lain," 

  Hai selamat pagi. Then suddenly I reckon this lady at the sosmed. She's the one who asking me whether I am still remember her while I was outstation in kota BC. "Kapan ke kota BC lagi?" "Abg masih ingat saya tak?" "Aku Meri yg antar jemput bawa mobil orange," "Pernah makan di kota T," "Pernah abg bawain milo," "Lupa ya?" "Kebanyak cwek,"

 Hai selamat pagi. Cik Jue a widower for 9 years with 2 twin daughters. She's working at the nearby RG Hotel as a housekeeping supervisor. Talking about her late husband who passed away due to the heart attack at the age of 45. "Arwah suami i dulu baik sgt, perfect, takde sapa bole match him," 

 Hai selamat pagi. Cik Reza (46) from M town is willing to see me tonight. She's driving to my hotel to pick me up. I shared my location with her — twice. But she doesn't like to use Waze or Google Maps, and relying on her knowledge of the area, she just drove to the hotel. However, she kept calling me many times. What the fish. She has 4 kids, 3 of whom are already married. The last one is staying with her. She has been divorced for 14 years. Currently, she's doing a small business taking customer's orders, selling cakes and nasi campur. Then we went to kedai mamak opposite of Aeon M. "Tujuan sy join dating apps nk cari customer utk bisnes I nih,"

 Hai selamat sore. This morning I just say hello to Cik May at Felda AT. But she mentioned about her dismenorea or "senggugut". "May tengah sakit perut DTG bulan,"

 Hai selamat malam. I know Kak Yatim from my old company back in 2015. Two weeks ago, she put up her WhatsApp status: "Tak blh tido nie. Apa nk buat?" I replied to the comment: "Knp cikkak, abg xde kaco ke?" Then she told me that her late husband passed away last year. He had many diseases, such as heart problems and high blood pressure, and had previously undergone an operation on his frozen shoulder. He was 59. Then she talked about wanting to turn her house into a homestay instead of renting it out . "Rumah cepat rosak lepas tu untung sikit kalau buat homestay kalau dpt 10x dh cukup lepas tu kami nk lepak2 dh mudah,"

 Hai selamat pagi. 她总是问我过得怎么样。 Cik Yanie (DB) always asks about my well being and how I'm doing. "Sampean wes mangan.." "Wes turu.." When I told her that I am watching tiktok, she curiously asked, "karo sopo..."

 Hai good afternoon.  பத்து பஹாட்டில் உள்ள சிக் ஆன் 2 மாதங்களுக்கு முன்பு ஒரு மோட்டார் சைக்கிள் விபத்தில் சிக்கினார். Cik Ann in Batu Pahat got a motorcycle accident 2 months ago. And we not chatting since that accident. This morning at 5.30am I send her a whatsapp message. "Dah 2 mlm X bleh nak tido..." she replied.

 Hi good night. அனைத்து வாசகர்களுக்கும் நல்ல இரவு. Cik Ain, a PPKI teacher with 2 children who is almost divorced. Now she's living in Melaka. She's not giving me her whatsapp. Instead she prefers to text and send messages me through Telegram makes me feel uncomfortable. "sya msih wife org," "awk nk kwn ker,"

 Hi selamat malam. Buenas noches. Cik Ju living in Felda A.S. She's a housewife while her husband working in a factory in P.G. "Ank2 ada yg sulung 16 thn, no 2 - 13 thn, No 3 - 11 thn. Anak istimewa Anak no 3 autisme," "Perempuan, Ank tak berckp, Jln kaki tonjit," "Pkdk kat pekan M, terapi, "

 Hai selamat pagi. Buen día. Dik Mel told me a few days ago that she was quitting her job here. She planned to go home to her country, but would stay in Batam for a while. She also said she would come back here for a new job. But yesterday she told me that she met her agent. The agent told her to stay here for a while and continue with her current contract until next May . "Mel tak jadi balik, agent suruh hbskan kontrak je bulan 5 thn depan,"

 Hai selamat malam. Buenas noches. Mbak RK is now working in Klang, Selangor. She is a Christian woman, divorced, with two children. "Kenapa awak banyak tanya?" she said. She mentioned that she is from Flores Island and currently works as a cleaner. She has been working here for 10 years in a laundry shop. When asked whether she is Sundanese, Javanese or Madura: "Bukan la,"

Hai selamat malam. Buenas noches. A Felda lady lives in the KT district. She replies to my messages quite slowly . At the moment, I still don't know whether she's divorced, a widow, or someone's wife. When asked why she joined the online apps, she responded: "Cari kwn2," Later, she told me that she's still someone's wife and has three kids.

 Hai salam sore. Dik Mel es de Palembang.. We supposed to meet this weekend. But last night she's asking me to redeem her gold bracelet at the pawnshop. I told her that I don't have money. The lady gets sulky. "Ok lh bang tak apa, kita rekan niaga produk A je bang ya,"

 Hai selamat pagi. I know Cik Amy, a divorced woman with two children, though one of them passed away earlier. She works as a delivery person based in Taman R. "Buat mase ni sy xde rase nk kluar la awk,"

Hai selamat malam. I saw cik EYD status on her whatsapp. Are you okay? I asked her just now. "Bnyk bnde nk fikir bile keje," Ooh. Actually she is thinking about her job as a QC. "Banyak barang tk.lps keluar sbb budak ii part time buat," "Hari ii nk hadap,"

 Hi konbanwa.  昨日、私はこれら2人の女性がもともとインドネシア出身のことを知っていました。 どちらもシングルマザーです。 Cik Yuli (37) originally from Palembang then migrated to Batam island. Working as a cleaner for 7 years, she got a 14 yo son. She only has 2 days off per month. "Cuti xtentu," "Boleh cuti hr isnin sampai kamis je," "Jumat sampai Ahad xleh cuti," "Gampang, tapi capek jugak, namanya kerja," Another lady, cik Yanie (48) originally from Lampung. She weighs 56kg and is 145cm tall. Talking about her ex husband who is 7 years older. "Buat apa ganteng, kalo gak setia," kata-kata seorang perempuan setelah menjadi janda. "

 Hai selamat petang. Cik RH said after becoming widow, she got many offers to be second wife. The first offer from her brother in law (her late husband's brother), but she's not interested.  The second offer from her good friend and also as a co worker at the factory. Even her friend offers her husband to her so that they can take turn making love during their periods. She said she also not interested with the husband. She saw him recently admitted to hospital.  "Walaupun sya tk cantik sya gemuk ..sya ada test sya," "Ank perempuan sya pun bagitahu Sya kalau nk kahwin jgn cari org tua ...ibu TK penat ke asyik jaga org sakit,"

Hai selamat malam. Cik Iza originally from Sabah baitu. A divorcee who's working in a spa in pekan YP. But recently moved to Taman AH under the same employer. "Massage kan 1hr Rm120 pun,"

 Hai selamat malam. Cik Ria skrg ada di JB. Dgn teman2 yg dtg dr KL. "Kerja, 4 hari saja" katanya. Bila aku ajak keluar, dia kata "boleh," "lepak2 makn je, nak bawa shoping pun boleh," Tapi ... " Gak ada duit tak usah ajak cewek jalan bang , 😂"

 Hai selamat malam. Cik Ani from Batam, who is working as a warung helper at nearby hawker stall. Last weekend, her teenage girl and her sister in law were balik kampung in Batam. But she didn't tell me until today. Yesterday (Monday), she was quite busy with the work at the stall. "Penat gile hari ni, kami tadi niaga cuma 2 orang je tau, yg lain cuti," she told me. "sebenarnya skrg ni aku lapar gile tapi penat juga, x larat nk keluar,"  But yesterday, they arrived from Batam.  "nanti la insyaallah hari kamis kita jumpa makan malam nanti aku ceritakan kisah aku sedikit," "hari ni sama esok aku de part time," "hidup aku ni terlalu rumit bang," "terlalu banyak masalah,"

  Hai selamat pagi. Cik Putri from Palembang, a widower with 2 kids at home. She has been working as a factory worker here for 3 years now. Yesterday she went to M town to buy something by taking a bus. She took a Grab from her hostel. Alone. "Naik Grab mahal, mending naik bas aja, maklum hemat,"

 Hai selamat malam. Cik AK cerita pasal lakinya. Sudah lama laki tak pulang ke rumah. Bulan lepas bila pulang pun cik AK masih layan BJ. Bengang sebab laki main tikam je walau dia tak ready.  "Tikam je sakit tau.. BJ tu utk dia je sonok.. Abes aku camne?" Cik AK pernah 3 kali operate kat hospital. Pernah lepas operate, cik AK minta laki ambil di hospital. Tapi laki buat² tak endah je. Walaupun laki tu drebar Grab. Jadi dia pesan Grab, boleh pula laki cakap, "Drpd amek Grab baik awk bayar kat saya je,"

 Hai salam Subuh. Dik Mel, a TKI is a widower from Palembang. I know her more than one year already. Now she is working in different factory of fitting rubber. Last night she told she got mc due to her hand was hurt. "Mel mc bang mel tak sihat ,hrs ny kan mel sfift malam," "Tangan bengkak," "Cr kerjaan lain bang," "Abg tak kesian mel.ke,"

Hai selamat petang. Setelah kembali dari Batam, kami masih belum bertemu.  Senin lalu aku mencoba mengajaknya kencan.  Sebenarnya dia sudah siap tetapi dia menjawab sangat telat.  Pada saat itu aku sudah berjalan keluar untuk membeli burger.  Lalu dia ngambek padaku dan membatalkan kencan.  Hari ini (Kamis), tiba -tiba dia mengirim sms kepada aku pagi ini.  "hari ni abg keje blk puk brapa?" "Hmm" "Xpe la" "oh,tadi NK ajak ABG diner"

Hai selamat pagi. I know Cik AL for quite sometimes now. She said she is working as a hotel cleaner. I plan to meet her this weekend for the first time. "klu nk jumpa Sye ...Sye bole sjee tunggu stesen KTM okay..."

Hai selamat pagi. Ifah, a 58 year old widower. 3 kids, 1 OKU kid passed away. And she got 2 grandkids. After keeping quiet for a month since last Raya Haji, she's sending me the first message: "Senyap jer tak msg," "Sibuk ke," I told her that I am quite busy, and she was keeping quiet too. "Tak lah saya nak msg mengedik kat awak kut," "Malu lah ppuan mula kan dulu,"

 Hai selamat pagi. Baru kemaren cik RB smpi dr Pulau Batam. Turun di terminal PG. Kerja di kampung baru P. Takde wasap kerana dipantau laki di Batam. Bila ajak ketemu, "Nantik boleh tak saya pinjam duit bang," " Gajian awal bulan saya bayar,"

 Hai selamat malam. Ya, cik I masih berehat di apartment LJ nya setelah serangan sakit jantung pada hariraya haji kelmarin. Kedai makannya pun msh blom di buka. Bila ditanya pasal 2 org pekerja Indonnya, "Sorg dh kawen dgn laki Pakistan."

 Hi good night. Ms Joy from the Philippines working in KL. She is a caregiver. Not divorce yet, but separated. "𝐿𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑘 𝑡𝑜, 𝑓𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒..." "𝐶𝑎𝑛 𝐼 𝑠𝑒𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢?"

 Hai selamat senja. Cik E janda Orang Asli takde anak yg baru keje di Senai.  "Kaklong tu dh byk kali kawen. Skrg laki nya baru 2 tahun," "Penah laki no 2.dia masa tu kantoi main dgn kakak dia yg sorang lagi. Dua2 lari tapi skrg dorg dh kawen."  "Kak Long ok je sbb dia agak kuat agama (Kristen), dia ckp dh takdir,"

 Hai slmt tghari. I didn't know that she is an Orang Asli, not a Malay girl. She was married once for 10 years and is now divorced. "laki pemalas, pemabuk, panas baran," No kids. A few months ago, she got engaged to a local Malay guy. Unfortunately, her fiancé was involved in a motorcycle accident and passed away. They were supposed to be married in September this year. She has a tattoo on her left hand — her name with a red rose. Looks nice. Reminds me of my ex - nurse tetek besar. But cik E's tetek is not big. ;) "𝑈 𝑡𝑓 𝑟𝑚XX 𝑘𝑎𝑡 𝑠𝑦 𝑏𝑙ℎ 𝑥🥹 𝑥 𝑐𝑘𝑢𝑝 𝑤𝑒𝑡 𝑛𝑘 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖 𝑏𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑔 ..𝑛𝑛𝑡𝑖 𝑔𝑎𝑗𝑖 𝑠𝑦 𝑏𝑎𝑦𝑎𝑟 𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑘 𝑏𝑙ℎ ??"

Hai selamat malam. Cik Lim is working at NB Chinese Foodcourt. She has two children back home in Indonesia. She has been here for almost two years now.  She is of Chinese descent and is now a Muslim. When she first arrived, she was forced to work as a caregiver, taking care of a house full of elderly people—even though the agent had promised her a job as a restaurant helper. She was very upset. In the caregiver’s house, she was forced to remove her hijab and cook non-halal meat. Fortunately, she still had her passport with her. Eventually, she ran away from the agent and the house. Now she's working as a restaurant helper. But serving drinks only. When asking to meet, she says: "bukan tak mau tapi bos aku galak, " "takut aku di marahin,"

Hai selamat malam. Keliru dengan cik Ani dgn cik Ain. Rupanya cik Ain yg dh kasi nombor wasap tapi tidak dibalas. Cik Ani dari Batam (asli Medan) punya 3 anak, masih krisis dgn suami. Skrg cik Ani kerja di warung ZnA, sama dgn anak perempuannya. 2 lagi anak tinggal di Batam sama ibu. "aku takut la bang, sebab abg ade bini aku trauma," "dulu pernah juga nk jumpa ama orang tapi dia ade bini," "terus bini dia datang tau tabrak aku," "bodoh nya lagi itu laki2 bagitau pulak aku ddk mana," "so aku masih trauma bang, sorry ya,"

 Hai selamat malam. Cik R is not a janda. She's still not married yet. Meeting at resto MJ discussing about new job opportunity for me. With current toxic working environment, I might accept the job offer. "But the contract only for 3 months,"

 Hai selamat malam. Aku mula2 chatting dgn cik K ini pada 23/4/25, lebih sebulan yg lalu. Aku ajak kuar ngeteh pada petang hari yg sama, mula2 dia kata boleh, tp kemudian dia tak jadi. Okay lah. Beberapa hari lepas, aku sapa dan ajak dia kuar lagi. Dia kata ok, rabu malam ini. Ada 3 anak - dari 6 hingga 13 tahun. Suami baru meninggal beberapa bulan lepas akibat paru2 berair. Curiosity kills the cat. She's been in this country for 15 years already. For her passport issue, she has a marriage visa.  "Tak perlu cop passport every year, just fill up the form at the immigration office," she said in fluent english. 

 Hai selamat pagi. Cik Ina patut jumpa masa raya haji. Tapi spt biasa, whatsapp tak bjawab lama.  "Saya tiba2 sakit belakang," she replied yesterday. Then kept quiet for a few days again.  Today early morning at 5.18am suddenly she messaged with her warded pic (no face) ,  "Saya serangan jantung nak jawab cam na,"  "Ni baru sedar,"  "Mungkin orng lain yg balas wsup," 

 Hai selamat malam. Cik Kal yg tinggal di pekan P dikenali lebih 2 bulan. Mula2 aku ingatkan dia Indon. Tapi lama2 dia tak suka ckp Indon. "Indo bukan Indon," "Ckp je la melayu," "Soon jdi malaysia," Bila aku tanya pasal pacarnya dan bila mahu menikah, tiba2 dia meroyan. Dia kata dia pnh kawen dgn org Malaysia tapi dh meninggal. Innalillahi.

 Hai selamat Tengahari. Cik Puan N di bandar M. Janda anak 3. Kerja di kedai tomyam tapi bukan tukang masak. Manakala pagi pula kerja memasak untuk banduan2 penjara.  "xyah nak selfie sgt,"  Kes cerai baru sahaja selesai bulan Februari. "Hujung bulan 4 aritu habis eddah,"

 Hai selamat pagi. DeqN, a widower with 2 young kids. She's willing to show her beautiful pic with the kids after realising that I'm not someone's husband. While driving, I'm sending her voice notes while she's texting me. Her husband got a fatal motorcycle accident after work last year. No insurance or saving forcing her to sell nasi lemak.

 Hai selamat petang. Cik Ros from T island. got 7 kids and has been divorced for 8 years. "Semua dah besar," "Sy Nk berkawan... cari teman hidup," 

 Hai selamat malam Jumaat. The first few chats.. then suddenly she's asking to vc early in the morning.  She's giving me her whatsapp number easily. I vc her for a while when I was walking to worksite. Not as pretty as her profile photo. Fake profile photo because she's using her younger version. When I complained, then abruptly she changed the photo. She gave me her Tiktok link and showing her ugly smiles. She suspected I was one of her deceased husband's friends. It's not possible. I never knew anybody from CB area. "Saja nak tahu," "Mana tahu kawan arwah suami saya apa ke,"

 Hai selamat malam. Cik AK bukan janda, tapi masih isteri orang. Cik AK skrg berada di Banyuwangi, dekat Probolinggo. Kelmarin dia kata nk naik superbike dgn "adik".  "Naik motor x smpi 2 jam..." "X sampai.. 70km... P bromo.."

 Hai selamat malam. I checked on previous chats. Found this cikgu Nor, a teacher from town K. When I send a new message saying and whatnot, she doesn't seem remember me. It's okay. It's a while since the last ramadhan. She insisted not to give her pic and whatsapp number even I asked her many times. Then suddenly she texted me, "nak topup boleh," =========================== Then, also after scrolling my whatsapp numbers, I saw this lady is idling for the last few days.  Cik Azlin who is from Big River town, and after few chatting, suddenly she asked, "Sy nk pakai rm40," "Utk Sy bli gas dgn myk mask je," "Selasa ni Sy byr blik," =========================== Then, the other Lady Ana at Princess Cove resort who was borrowing rm30 from me last week. Until now just kept quiet. When I texted her just now, "Maaf kerana ad masalah," "Kira duit sy burn erk? masalah awk pon x selesai," "Ni masalah lain,"

  Hai happy Thursday noon. Cik Ina at LJ replied my messages quite late.  "ingat awak taknsuka saya perempuan dimmm, " with typo is quite confusing me. Actually she wanted to say, that i might not like to befriend her since i told her last time that she's demanding on the hantaran. Then I reckon that she is blocking my WhatsApp.  Cik EYD agreed to go out with me tonight. Yes. Cik NUR a single lady from P island, like to reply my messages. She works as a labor at a palm oil plantation. She showed me her pic with sexy but tougher body.

 Hai salam tahajjud. Semalam aku agak sibuk melayan beberapa janda. Dalam apps dating itu dan wa seperti biasa. Cik Puan N dari kota M di pantai timur Johor. Baru dapat nombor wa. Tunjuk pakej candat sotong/ jigging/ bottom. Tapi aku tak minat candat sotong atau me mancing ikan di lautan dalam.  "Baik candat janda je," Hahaha. Cik Senah R di negeri cik Siti Wan Kembang nun jauh di mata. Sudah beberapa kali chatting dlm wa. Cik Senah R yg acah2 gedik tapi ... Cik Ina dari LJ. Petang tadi beritahu harus guna nombor wa yg satu lagi. Patutlah lama baru balas wa.  " Fon tu saya bg dekat pekerja saya utk order Grabfood, "  A new lady, cik Imah kerja di pekan GP, asal Pahang. 2 kali cerai. No 1 kematian suami 11 thn kawin tak ada anak. No 2 cerai 4 bulan saja, kenal di apps dating itu. Nikah lepas tu dapat tahu dia mmg tak kerja dan main barang (dadah).  " Awak bole main ke, " tiber. Cik H di taman T. Tgh lipat baju when I mesej. " Ada free time boleh j...

 Hai salam Subuh. Selasa malam cik Ana tak cantik baru wasap dari Princess Cove resort hantar mesej. "Awak ad RM x," "RM30 je, nk ganti duit niaga hilang," "Mak bebel je x berhenti," ehh?

Hai selamat Tengahari.  Pagi tadi aku vc cik Ina. Dia cuti hari Isnin, tak bukak kedai makanan. Bercakap pasal hantaran, rupanya dia pun demand. Ingatkan tidak kisah pasal jadi laki sebulan sekali. Dia mahu laki bawa jalan2 gi oversea,ie Thailand, Indonesia sbb dia tak pnh ke sana. Aku sempat rakam tanpa suara.  Kemudian bila tanya semula pasal hantaran dia yg hebat tu... dia jwb, "Mesti ...lah sekali seumur hidup abng.. tu pun utk buln madu.. bersama-sama," "Kalau tak.. kena pakai duit sendiri .." "Sendiri ..."

Hai tuan admin, boleh sy minta pendapat psl rakan wanita anak dara tua umur 45 masih menunggu dengan setia suami orang.. isteri beliau masih tidak bersetuju poligami.. apa yg harus beliau buat? Ini mesej jawapan yg lembut tapi tegas... Assalamualaikum sahabatku yang dikasihi, Aku tulis mesej ini bukan untuk menghakimi, tapi kerana aku sayangkan dirimu sebagai seorang wanita yang tabah, baik, dan setia. Aku tahu kau dah lama menunggu, dan aku tahu perasaan cinta itu bukan mudah untuk ditolak begitu saja. Tapi aku nak tanya dari hati ke hati — sampai bila kau nak teruskan menunggu sesuatu yang belum tentu jadi milikmu? Kalau dia benar-benar serius, pasti dia akan buat keputusan yang jelas sejak dulu. Tapi bila tahun demi tahun berlalu tanpa kepastian, tanpa keizinan isteri pertamanya, dan kau pula masih setia menanti... aku bimbang kau sedang menyakiti dirimu sendiri, walaupun kau tak sedar. Kau wanita yang berharga. Kau layak dicintai dengan penuh penghormatan dan kejelasan. Bukan disim...

 Hai salam tengahari. Pagi tadi sempat VC dgn 2 orang mak2 org. Cik Ina pertama kali VC dari kedai makan. Sekejp je borak2. Kemudian cik AK VC dari rumahnya. Semua anak2 dan mak dh berangkat ke Surabaya utk ke Bromo semalam. Dia kesunyian sorang2 kat umh. Smlm kata nk gi KLCC tapi... "Malas lak..." "Huhu... Cuaca pans," =================================== Hai selamat petang. Petang Ahad sempat chatting dgn 2 janda. Cik Fina di taman K soh dtg ke rumah ajak ke Bazar Karat. Mula2 ingtkn umh dia di kota M mcm dulu, tpi msh di kampungnya di K.  "Abang jum kita pegi bazar karat lps magrib," "Fina ada nk cari brg nk pakai kerje," katanya memujuk. "Jauh," kataku. Kemudian dia senyap. Haha. Cik LIY di Princess Cove resort pula tiba2 beri salam kat aku punye wasap status. Dia bosan tu sbb takde pelanggan di warung makannya.  "Sy tak cantik awak," ehh tiber.

 Hai, selamat malam. This Saturday afternoon, I drove from JB to KT town. Cikmas, who came from SA with her lecturer friend, was staying at Hotel C. It took me 55 minutes to reach her hotel. Then I brought her to Resto B for her brunch. Note. Cikmas is a bachelorette, and is now 45 years old. I think I know her for more than 20 years. We talked about her long-time boyfriend, who is still someone’s husband. When it came to their relationship, she said there are only two options: "number one - until his wife accepted polygamy," "or over his wife dead body,"

Fri, 23/5/2025. On Friday evening, I met a widowed lady at the satay restaurant on Jalan Denai. We hadn’t seen each other for quite some time. We didn’t talk much like we usually do. She was also busy chatting with her business downlines during the meal. "Jumpa pon tiada kata²", " " Free² joom la hiking, "

 Hai selamat pagi Kamis. Last night I met this old lady, Fina, 54 at her sister's house at Lorong Rambai. Actually I didnt contact her since 29 Jan 2025. I didn't know her and doesn't have her pic. She once was dating a widow man, working in oil and gas industry and always going offshore. He brought her to shopping mall and bought her new t-shirts that she likes. Now he's in Dubai. We went to this tomyam kampung style restaurant nearby although she wanted to go to Bandar DO. I dont feel easy with her, not because of her appearance but mostly of her attitude not  punctual and kept me waiting when I first arrive although she knew that I was coming to pick her up.

 Hai selamat petang. I met this widow, mek INA from east coast. I picked her up at her condo and we went for dinner. She's a chef with 2 indon workers.One of the workers is staying together in the condo. She likes to talk too, about her late husband and her hard head daughter. She said she want to find her future husband for once a month. Reason 1 is because she doesn't want to control her husband. Reason 2 is because she wanted to focus on her children in the house. On her latest messages: "Sb tak nak dia bosan.. bila sebulan sekali cinta nye untuk sy mesti kuat ... dan keghairahan.. luar biasa.. so sy dihargai.. kalau hari2 .. gaduh.. bosan.. macam2 lah., kan" "Lagipun.. sy ada anak.. sy perlu temn kn anak sy.. Kalu sekali dgn sy, mungkin dia marah anak saya," "Kalau dah sayang.. ikhlas.. tak kan gaduh.. duit bukn segalanye.. memahami yg penting,"

  hai selamat malam. NA of S town. Janda dua kali cerai. Sekarang saya tiada hubungan apa2, cuma berkawan sahaja. Pertama kali jumpa semalam, borak2 pasal rumahtangganya, suami yg pertama cerai fasakh sebab tidak bertanggungjawab dan kaki dadah, suami kedua pula cemburu yg amat tinggi. Buat masa ini saya tidak mahu komitmen (ikatan nikah) sbb sy sudah byk alami. Dia tidak berkira tentang status pekerjaan bakal suami, suami pertama pernah menjadi business partner jaga stesen minyak caltex di kedah, pecah amanah; suami kedua driver lori, Tapi NA tidak mahu suami orang, yakni poligami. Jawapan.  Assalamualaikum. Saya harap tak salah kalau saya luahkan sesuatu dengan jujur. Saya sangat hormat cara hidup awak — berdikari, mengajar al-Quran, dan jelas dengan pendirian. Bukan semua orang ada kekuatan macam tu, dan saya memang kagum. Cuma saya nak berterus terang, supaya tak timbul salah faham di kemudian hari. Buat masa ni, saya tak mencari apa-apa komitmen atau ikatan seperti perk...

 Hai selamat malam. Hari ini jumpa 3 janda. Janda 1: NA, dua kali jadi janda. Jumpa kat kedai mamak Rest2 jam 10am. Ngeteh teh kosong panas dan ngobrol2 hampir 3 jam.  Guru mengajar ngaji online, masih dibelenggu bangkrap, tinggal di rumah sewa. Tabah menghadapi ujian dari Allah. Janda 2: Oops, ILA bukan janda. Cuma suami abaikan tanggungjwb sbb ada betina lain, katanya. Ini adalah pertemuan kedua. Jumpa kat Metro Plaza jam 2pm, tapi sbb masih bersama2 teman sekilang, jd jumpa jam 3pm. Janda 3: LIYAA di daerah B. Pernah berkahwin 2 kali dan bercerai. Jualan sosej bakar di pasar malam. Ini adalah pertemuan yg kedua kami.

 Hai selamat malam. Hari ini berjumpa dengan 3 jandas. Janda satu. YAN, sorang janda indon, kerja kilang. Ngeteh dan ngobrol2 di kedai mamak. Janda dua. LIYAA di pasar malam daerah B. Janda 2 kali. Ngeteh dan ngobrol2 di kedai makan tomyam dekat pasar malam itu. Dia jualan sosej bakar dgn kakak jual jajan.  Janda tiga. INA mek Klate di LJ condo. Ngeteh dan ngobrol2 di kedai makan tomyam. Janda kematian suami - pemandu peribadi. Sekarang ada pencen rm2k sebulan, jadi tukang masak dengan 2 orang pekerja Indon. Anak sulong pompuan tak setuju mak kawen lagi disebabkan trauma dengan arwah bapa sendiri. One thing about INA is that she's willing to marry her future husband for once a month because she doesn't want to control her husband. Also she got her kids to take care.

  Hai selamat malam. Cik LIY di Princess Cove resort. Janda kematian suami anak satu. Niaga di Jalan L. Bila aku smpi tadi dia mula2 malu nk jumpa. Aku makan sendirian di Nasi Lemak Atas Bukit. Lepas tu barulah dia nak jumpa. Not a pretty lady.

 Hai selamat malam. LYN - after chatting kt apps, and since she's living at High Town, so I drove to her house after work. Then I regret it because her house is very far far away passing thru oil palm plantation. It took me more than 1 hour 10 minutes to reach there. After following her gps direction, and waited at her house, then suddenly she asked me to come outside by the main road. Aiyah. Bandar Petri Jaya  LYN is a dark chubby lady with rough and black hands. This is because of her working conditions in the oil palm plantation. Then we went to bandar T food court which is quite far away too - 23 minutes She didn't want to eat meal for her diet reason. Funny. LYN still a married lady and her divorce case is still in progress.

 Hai selamat malam. Ati (50) penjual minyak Bidara n Jamu Pak Long Man yg original. First meeting her at PG stadium as she had an event (Bikers week). She's staying at nearby Hotel LG. I met her at 12.30am outside the hotel. Ati - 2 kali janda. Her second husband is younger than her - muay thai and liked to hit her.  "Taulah u x syok kat sy," " Suami org kan, " "bujang pon masalah jugak kann,"  " klu bujang kurang la sikit masalah nya, " "kene tumbuk terajang tu sikit ke masalah ko?"